College and dating
Let’s hand things back over to my finger-on-the-pulse, college-age experts to explain just how meaningful little efforts and expressions of genuine emotion can be. ’ Or being the one to come up with fun activities or things to do instead of just asking, ‘Wanna hang?
I feel like some guys are too afraid to show that they care about things other than sports and beer (cliche but true).Hooking up with one or two of your hallmates within the first few days of school, however, is a definite no-no.When tempted to engage in “dormcest,” remind yourself that you’re going to have to face him—as well as everyone else on your floor, because they’re going to find out—for the rest of the year, no matter how good or bad your hook-up was.I think it’s because they worry that sharing emotion or making an effort translates to vulnerability and a lack of cool.Take it from me, though: nothing in the world is cooler or more meaningful than being a bit vulnerable. Don’t take it from me, I’m an old fart that’s long since graduated.
And while Kendal’s boyfriend asked her out via text (because he was too nervous to do it IRL), she said guys should “definitely” do it face-to-face if they want to make a memorable impression…and up their odds of getting a, “Yes, let’s! Asking a woman on a date in person—right to her face, using words coming out of your mouth—takes guts. Think: “I’d love to take you to X on Tuesday at Y o’clock,” rather than “We should grab food sometime maybe.” You didn’t sign up for College Romance 101 to get merely a passing grade, did you? You want to bring your “A” game and put your fellow students to shame (in a nice way, of course). Remember: you have classmates who wear pajamas to class and hoodies to parties.