Dating a man with kids and an ex Sex chat house
"Here's what 14 women said dating someone with their own kids was like..."His kids were great. During the school holidays, the kids would come to stay with us.
He would go to work, while I stayed at home with them (I was a teacher, so I also had holidays at the same time).
Back when I was single and dating around I had two different fellas lie about not having kids before we met. It's not that I don't like their kids or respect their children, I just do not feel like I need to deal with baby mama drama. She’d come over for summer and Christmas and my boyfriend would spend time with her then, and he’d go abroad to see her a few times a year too.
I have no baggage and expect the same in return." Grandkids wouldn't bug me. This didn’t bother me because I really enjoy time to myself.
Like I wanted to see the same person consistently, but I wasn't looking to plan for a future, so I didn't mind dating people with kids as long as they wanted the same thing, which he claimed he did at first.
Due to a death in his family I became way too involved with his two-year-old daughter way too soon, and he wanted to settle down with me within a couple months of knowing one another. His daughter was awesome, but I didn't want to be a parent figure in her life, and since he was such a young father (21) she was unfortunately stunting his personal and professional growth, and I didn't have it in me at that stage in my life to be with someone who would be a 'project'.
This put a strain on everyone and the kids would often miss the first few days of school each [term].
Anyway, my school holidays ended up not being actual holidays.
At 24 I'd just come out of an engagement/relationship that had lasted nearly a decade, and was looking for casual relationships.I haven't been too thrown by the situation, since I don't live with the kids, and he only has them half the time so they aren't at his house constantly either.I think there've been two major effects though: 1) They take a LOT of time and energy - they are really his primary relationship.One of them being: do not get involved with the kids until the relationship is very secure and serious. It's a weird, uncomfortable place to be because I was not able to say goodbye or explain anything.With my ex things didn't work out and I hadn't expected to get as attached as I did. I was virtually forced to disappear from this kid's life.
Would not do again." "I will not date anyone who has children. We’ve been together five years now and his daughter is coming up to 12.