Finding common interests dating
My brother-in-law Brendan shares my sister Molly’s devotion to rock climbing.
He said, “I love being able to sneak out with Molly for a night at the climbing gym.” But in the end, he just wanted to spend time with someone who has “an interest beyond shopping or Netflix.”“One of the things which is enjoyable as a couple is to hear the excitement of your partner while they tell you about their latest adventure or accomplishment,” he said.
They have to find their unique ways of strengthening the emotional connection between them.
Of course, most of those unique ways will involve spending time together pleasantly.”Perhaps most revealingly, even married couples who love the exact same things echoed Coontz’s and Worthington’s sentiments when I asked.
“Shopping and TV really can’t bring that to a conversation.”And my sister-in-law Jessica, who first bonded with my brother Carl over their shared passion for an obscure Soviet children’s show, said something similar.
Both of us like Mexican food, the more inauthentic the better.By the end, I’d become a rowdy fan, ready to brawl in the aisle. Chris has a better grasp of nuances of tones of voice and expression than anyone I’ve ever met.When we walk out of parties, I turn to him and ask, “So what just happened there?But he did not turn out to be interested in any of the things that I care about; he plays video games while I read, he designs webpages while I write. You could say his waffle iron is half-empty, while mine is half-full. If you ever want to make a dinner table go quiet, say that you and your spouse don’t have anything in common.People will expect a divorce announcement to follow.
And neither of us believe in an afterlife, as much as we would like to. The differences don’t stop at our personalities, either.